Embalming Blog 8 Part 5 of 6 "Balancing Compassion and Professionalism: Navigating the Challenges of Being an Irish Undertaker"

Embalming Blog 8 Part 5 of 6 "

As an Irish undertaker, the sacred duty of preparing a wake with an open coffin holds immense importance. This tradition, deeply rooted in our culture, allows families to honor and bid farewell to their loved ones in a meaningful and personal way.

In the solemn room filled with sorrow, where grief hangs heavy in the air, I find yourself standing before a family already burdened by loss. Their eyes search yours, seeking solace and answers, yearning for a final glimpse of their departed loved one. The open coffin, surrounded by flowers and candles, becomes a focal point of remembrance and closure.

Choosing each word with care, you explain the significance of the wake and the open coffin. It is a time for family and friends to come together, to share memories, to offer prayers, and to pay their respects. The sight of their loved one, peaceful and dignified, evokes emotions of love, gratitude, and sorrow.

Despite the challenges and limitations that may arise, you strive to ensure that the wake and open coffin are carried out with the utmost respect and reverence. The tradition lives on through your guidance, honoring the memory of the departed and providing solace to those left behind.

In the midst of grief and loss, the open coffin at the wake serves as a beacon of light, a symbol of love and remembrance that guides the way toward healing and closure. As an Irish undertaker, you embrace this sacred tradition with humility and grace, knowing that each moment spent in the presence of the departed is a tribute to a life well-lived and deeply cherished.

Being an Irish undertaker presents unique challenges, particularly when having to explain to grieving families that embalming or reconstruction may not be feasible. Balancing professionalism and compassion in these situations is a delicate task that weighs heavily on your shoulders.

In the somber atmosphere of a room filled with grief, you stand before a family already shattered by loss. Their eyes plead for comfort, answers, and a flicker of hope. Yet, there are times when hope seems distant, and the harsh truth must be acknowledged.

As an Irish undertaker, I carefully consider the option of embalming following a tragic accident. Just like an artist selecting colors for a painting, I gently explain to grieving families why embalming may not be possible in their situation. These factors play a crucial role in the decision-making process, as I can see the pain etched on their faces and feel deep empathy for their suffering.

Sometimes, the severity of injuries or decomposition makes reconstruction impossible, leaving their loved one unrecognizable. The thought of a closed coffin solidifies the finality of their loss, shutting off their last moments with the departed. I stand by in support, witnessing their grief as a silent companion in their sorrow.

As an undertaker, I carry the burden of their sadness and offer comfort and guidance during their darkest hours. Though I cannot mend their broken hearts, I promise to honor their loved one with respect, creating a farewell that pays tribute to their memory.

As an Irish undertaker, I am entrusted with a sacred duty to guide families through the difficult process of saying goodbye to their loved ones. With every funeral arrangement, I carefully consider the unique circumstances of each situation and delicately navigate the sensitive topic of embalming.

Just as an artist selects specific hues to convey a particular emotion in a painting, I choose my words with care when discussing the possibility of embalming following a tragic accident. I understand the gravity of the decision and the impact it can have on the grieving family members.

When faced with situations where embalming may not be possible, such as severe injuries or advanced decomposition, I must delicately explain the limitations and offer alternative options. The heart-wrenching emotions that wash over the faces of the bereaved are tangible, and my own heart aches with empathy for their pain.

The inability to reconstruct the appearance of their loved one can be a devastating blow, and the necessity of a closed coffin can serve as a stark reminder of the finality of death. In these moments, I stand as a silent witness to their grief, offering a compassionate presence and a steady hand to guide them through their sorrow.

Despite the inability to erase their sorrow or mend their broken hearts, I make a solemn vow to honor the memory of their loved one with dignity and respect. I craft a farewell that serves as a beautiful tribute to the life that was lost, providing a sense of closure and peace for those left behind. In my role as an undertaker, I carry the weight of their sorrow with me, offering solace and support as they navigate the difficult journey of grieving and healing.

In some cases, embalming may not be achievable due to various factors such as legal constraints, rapid decay, autopsies, cultural practices, or advanced decomposition. Understanding these limitations and navigating them with compassion is vital in ensuring a funeral experience that respects the family's traditions and sensitivities.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog post and for sharing your thoughts and feedback. I'm glad you found it useful and informative. Your likes, shares and comments help me reach more people and inspire me to write more. I appreciate your support and engagement.

WJ’ O’Donnell

Stay tuned for our next segment, where we will delve into alternative options to embalming, exploring the intricate nuances of funeral preparations as an Irish undertaker.

Preparing the Deceased: Dressing and Coffin Placement - Blog 8, Part 4

During a particularly hectic period in the funeral industry, there has been a slight delay in releasing my latest blog post. As always, our priority is serving the needs of the families we care for, and we apologize for any inconvenience caused.

Part 4 of 6: Embalming

WJ O'Donnell

With that said, I would like to take this opportunity to extend warm wishes for a Happy New Year to everyone. It's hard to believe that we are already past the halfway point of January, and we hope that this year brings peace, healing, and new beginnings to all.

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I invite you to dive into this informative and engaging piece, as we delve deeper into the fascinating world of embalming and the funeral industry.

These latest blog posts are a rare chance to explore embalming the advanced techniques use in Ireland. Exploring my personal experience that I have witnessed and practiced over the past almost 40-year career as an Irish undertaker.

More importantly....

Embalming is a process that has been used for a century to preserve the body of the deceased. Its primary purpose is to slow down the natural decomposition process, which can help to provide a more peaceful and respectful farewell to the departed. The process involves the injection of a special solution into the body through the arteries, which replaces the blood and fluids. This solution typically includes a mixture of formaldehyde, methanol, and other chemicals.

At WJ O'Donnell & Sons Funeral Directors, we understand that our clients and their families pay for the embalming service, which is why it's important to know exactly what you're paying for. We also believe that you should have a better understanding of what happens behind the closed doors of our facilities and the care that you or your loved one will receive. I believe it's vital to share information while protecting our clients' privacy.

In recent years, there have been many advancements in the techniques used for embalming. For example, we now offer eco-friendly or "green" embalming options that use non-toxic solutions. There are also new methods that involve using natural enzymes and microbes to break down the body instead of harsh chemicals.

Our main goal is to provide a peaceful and respectful way to say goodbye to our loved ones. As an Irish undertaker with almost four decades of experience, I understand the importance of this process and am committed to providing the highest quality service to every client we serve.

So In this blog post, Part 4 of our 6 part series on Embalming and preparing the deceased for their final journey.

Long before my time and before the interdiction of coffins the deceased would be carefully wrapped in a shroud before being laid to rest, and sometimes personal items or symbolic objects would be placed alongside the body. The shroud was considered an important part of the funeral rites and was believed to provide comfort and protection to the deceased in the afterlife.

The delicate tasks of dressing and placing the deceased in the coffin are carried out with great care and respect by my team. Moving the body from the embalming table to the coffin is done by two members of staff using specialized lifting equipment to safely transfer the deceased. At all times, the deceased is handled as if they were still alive to maintain their dignity. Preparing the deceased in the dressing room is also a delicate task that requires compassion. We treat the deceased with the utmost respect, and if the deceased is female, we have a female member of staff to provide assistance wherever possible.

Shrouds have been used for centuries to prepare the dead for burial. In the past, a simple linen sheet was wrapped around the body, with knots tied at the foot and head. As time went on, coffin sheets replaced the traditional winding sheet, and the body was placed in a shift with a bonnet, with the sheets pinned to the sides of the coffin. In the 19th century, the shroud evolved into a tailored garment with distinct styles for different genders. Early burials were often made without benefit of a coffin – the body was merely shrouded. There is some evidence that the Irish believed that no pins could be left in a corpse's clothing or shroud or they would be tied to the earth, doomed to haunt as a ghost. Dressing the deceased used to be an integral part of the grieving process and was carried out by the family after death. It allowed the family to pay their respects and perform the last rites in a dignified and meaningful way. In the past, it was common for the death to occur at home, and the family would take care of important infection protection measures after the loved one had passed away.

The practice of dressing the deceased in their own clothes is relatively new in Ireland, as traditional dress codes involved a plain or shroud with an image. However, as societal norms evolved, there was a growing desire to personalize funeral services, leading to the acceptance of dressing the deceased in their own clothes.

In our role at WJ O'Donnell & Sons, we have been entrusted with the important task of dressing the deceased. With our team of skilled undertakers and staff members, we approach this responsibility with the utmost care and respect. We understand the significance of this step in the grieving process, as it allows family and friends to bid their final farewells in a dignified manner.

In recent years, I have witnessed a notable shift in Ireland towards using the deceased's personal clothing. This practice, if the individual had specific preferences or a favorite outfit, allows for a more personalized and meaningful farewell. It reflects a growing desire to honor and respect the unique individuality and personal identity of the departed.

At WJ O'Donnell & Sons, we not only ensure that infection protection measures are in place, but our Funeral Directors also offer guidance to the family regarding clothing choices. We understand the importance of a restful presentation, taking into consideration the individual's personal style and preferences. By incorporating their favourite clothing, we strive to create a final tribute that truly reflects the person they were in life.

This evolving funeral trends in Ireland signifies a deeper understanding of the need to honor the deceased's personal choices, even in their final moments. It demonstrates a growing awareness of the significance of a personalized and meaningful farewell, allowing loved ones to bid their final goodbyes in a way that feels authentic and reflective of the individual's personality and style, and we will be here to support you and carry out your loved ones wishes.

The use of personal clothing adds a unique touch to the dressing process. It allows family and friends to remember their loved one as they were in life, wearing the clothes that were dear to them. This practice not only provides a sense of closure but also helps in the grieving process, as it allows family members to reminisce about the deceased's life and cherish the memories associated with their clothing.

In addition to the deceased's personal clothing, a coffin dress or shroud is often used to further enhance the presentation. This garment can be personalized with delicate embroidery or lace, adding a touch of elegance and reverence. The choice of fabric, colour, and adornment can be tailored to reflect the individual's taste and preferences.

The incorporation of personal clothing and the use of a customized coffin dress or shroud create a truly unique and heartfelt tribute to the deceased. It allows family and friends to say their final goodbyes in a way that is deeply personal and meaningful where the deceased looks at peace in comfort.

This practice has become increasingly popular in Ireland over the past two decades, as it aligns with the evolving attitudes towards funeral attire and the desire to create a more personal and intimate farewell.

It's worth noting that many still prefer the traditional shroud, and we're happy to accommodate those requests.

In conclusion, the use of the deceased's personal clothing has become a common practice in Ireland over the past 20 years. It allows for a more personalized and meaningful farewell, honouring the individual's preferences and style. Alongside personal clothing, a customized coffin dress or shroud can be used to add an extra layer of elegance and reverence to the presentation. This practice reflects the changing attitudes towards funeral traditions and the desire to create a final tribute that truly captures the essence of the departed. Placing the deceased in the coffin is the final step and requires attention to detail and care. The body should be positioned in a way that looks natural and comfortable, and pillows or padding maybe used to ensure a dignified presentation. Throughout the dressing process, it is important to honour the deceased's personal preferences and beliefs, as this can create a meaningful and comforting final tribute.

Thank you for your continued support, and stay tuned for more insightful and intriguing content on my blog. If you have any specific topics or questions you would like me to address, feel free to let me know.

Life as an Irish Undertaker Blog 8 Part 3: Embalming, Advanced Techniques, and My Motto: We Only Get One Chance to Do It Right.

Part 3 of 6: Embalming

An embalming pump is a device used in the process of preserving and sanitizing a body after death, which is known as embalming. The pump is used to circulate embalming fluid into the body, replacing the natural body fluids

Embalming, a crucial aspect of the funeral process, has undergone significant advancements in recent years. As an Irish undertaker, I've witnessed these transformations first-hand and remain committed to providing families with the most dignified and respectful services possible.

Embalming, once considered a purely preservative procedure, has evolved into a multifaceted practice that not only preserves the body but also enhances its appearance and promotes comfort for families during the viewing or visitation.

Modern embalming techniques employ a variety of compounds to replace bodily fluids, deodorize tissues, and slow down decomposition. These formulations have become more sophisticated, incorporating natural ingredients and minimizing environmental impact.

One of the most significant advances in embalming is the use of specialized equipment, such as the arterial embalming machine, allowing for a more efficient and controlled application of embalming fluid. This technique ensures uniform preservation throughout the body, minimizing discoloration and maintaining a natural appearance.

Another area of improvement lies in the development of restorative techniques that address specific concerns, such as setting facial features and restoring skin tone to a lifelike appearance. These methods help families view their loved ones with peace and acceptance.

Embalming has also evolved to address the needs of families who wish to travel with their deceased loved ones. Cryopreservation, a technique that utilizes freezing temperatures to preserve the body, has become increasingly popular, enabling families to transport the deceased across long distances without compromising their condition.

As an Irish undertaker, I am dedicated to staying abreast of the latest developments in embalming practices, ensuring that my clients receive the highest quality services available. My motto, "We only get one chance to do it right," serves as a constant reminder of the importance of my work and the trust that families place in me and my team

We have only one chance to get it right….

We've recently invested in a Start of the are Embalming and preparation theatre, also known as embalming room or prep room. These specialized spaces within our funeral homes is dedicated to the preparation of deceased for viewing, burial and cremation. These facilities are equipped with a variety of tools and equipment necessary for embalming, dressing, and comedizing the deceased.

Embalming is not simply a preservation technique or hygienic treatment; it is a way of honouring the life and memory of a loved one. By providing compassionate and professional services, we undertakers play a vital role in the grieving process, ensuring that families can say goodbye with dignity and respect.

That concludes this section of my embalming blog. Remember to continue sharing and liking. If you have any funeral-related questions you’d like answered, please leave them in the comment box below. Your engagement is appreciated! WJ

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Life as an Irish Undertaker Blog 8 - Part 2 of 6: Preservation Through Embalming

Part 2 of 6: Embalming

The Art of Embalming: A Personal Journey as an Irish Undertaker

In part 1 of blog 8, I embarked on a journey into the intricate world of embalming, a subject that, for much of my life as an Irish undertaker, was seldom discussed. Despite this, the results of embalming have always been the most important part of my job. Today, I invite you to join me as I continue our exploration by focusing on a crucial aspect of this profession: preservation through embalming. Together, we will delve into the art and science behind this practice and its significance in the context of funeral ceremonies.

From the moment we receive the first call for our services, the planning for this process begins. It’s a journey that starts with collecting the deceased with utmost care and compassion, understanding the emotional weight of this task. Preparing the embalming room is a critical step in this process, ensuring a serene and respectful environment for the deceased.

At WJ O'Donnell & Sons Funeral Directors, we transport the deceased using a private ambulance. This specially converted vehicle allows for respectful and discreet transportation from the place of death to our premises. The use of a private ambulance helps maintain anonymity and is less conspicuous than a traditional hearse.

Upon arrival at the funeral home, we begin the hygienic treatment, ensuring the body is cleaned and prepared according to strict sanitary standards. The actual embalming process involves the use of a carefully selected combination of embalming fluids. These fluids serve to retard the decomposition process, maintain a natural appearance, and prevent the spread of bacteria. As a skilled embalmer, I employ my expertise and understanding of the embalming process to carry out this delicate procedure.

The embalming process is an essential element of our responsibilities as undertakers, as it allows us to honor the deceased and provide comfort to grieving loved ones during the wake and funeral services. Through meticulous attention to detail, trained professionals undertake the embalming process, which includes collecting the deceased, hygienic treatment, and the application of embalming fluids.

Dressing the deceased is a significant aspect of the embalming process, and we take great care in selecting appropriate clothing that reflects the individual's personal style or cultural customs. In cases where women are involved, my wife, Betty, uses her expertise to ensure they are respectfully dressed.

Additionally, cosmetics may be applied to enhance the natural features of the deceased if desired by the family. It is important to note that this step is entirely optional, and the decision is made in consultation with the family to ensure their wishes and preferences are respected.

It’s a funeral practice that’s been carried out for thousands of years in one form or another. Its modern form began in the early 20th century in the UK and Ireland, when it was sometimes also called ‘hygienic treatment’.

In some parts of the world, extreme embalming has seen people temporarily preserved and posed and photographed with family members. However some religious funerals, including Jewish funerals and Muslim funerals, prohibit embalming.

Why are bodies embalmed?

Many people who choose to have a loved one embalmed, do so in order to spend a little more time with them. The person may be laid out in an open coffin at home, in a church or in a funeral home’s chapel of rest.

People can look very different after death. The embalming process can help restore the person’s appearance, giving an impression of peaceful sleep and wellness. This can be a great comfort for grieving families, especially if they lost a loved one to an illness.

Embalming can also bring closure for families who lost a loved one in traumatic circumstances and did not get the chance to say goodbye before they died. There are specialist embalmers that perform post-mortem surgery upon people who suffered devastating injuries in fatal accidents.

Many funeral directors have the skills to carry out embalming, or can arrange for an embalmer to do so at your chosen funeral home.

What does embalming do to a body?

Embalming temporarily delays the first stages of decomposition, which begin to break down our body tissues from the moment that we die. It can also seem to restore our physical appearance.

The embalming process involves draining and replacing body fluids that are no longer circulating around the body, with a mixture of preserving chemicals.

Embalming solutions are commonly a mixture of chemicals including formaldehyde, glutaraldehyde, methanol, ethanol and phenol, as well as water and colourants that reduce pallor and restore the appearance of the skin.

Are your organs removed when you are embalmed?

Although the Ancient Egyptians removed and preserved vital organs during embalming, this is not the case today.

Unless the person who died was an organ donor, they will be embalmed with their organs inside their body.

When someone has a post-mortem to identify their cause of death, the organs are removed and weighed. They are replaced inside the body cavity before it leaves the mortuary.

What is the process of embalming a body?

There are two main types of embalming: arterial embalming and cavity embalming. The process usually takes between two and four hours.

– What is arterial embalming? Arterial embalming sees the blood removed via the veins and replaced with embalming fluids via the arteries. Tubes are inserted into the body and attached to a machine, which pumps the embalming fluid in through the jugular vein in the neck or femoral vein in the leg, causing the natural body fluids to be circulated around the body. These are drained via a tube that’s inserted in the femoral artery, or the carotid artery in the neck.

– Cavity embalming sees the natural fluids inside the chest and abdomen removed. A tube is inserted via a small incision and te fluids are removed with a suction machine. These fluids are then replaced by embalming solution and the small incision is closed.

More about the embalming process

Before a body is embalmed, it is carefully washed and then washed again after the procedure. During embalming it is massaged, to help work the preserving fluids through the body.

When a person's body is prepared, their genitals are kept covered, to protect their dignity.

The person’s facial features are set by the embalmer into a natural expression. The jaw is sutured with invisible stitches to keep it in place, while caps placed under the eyelids help keep them closed.

Then the person who has died will be carefully groomed and dressed.

Cosmetics are used to enhance a natural appearance and are formulated to be used by funeral directors in their care of the deceased.

Photos are often used as a guide to ensure the person’s hair and makeup are just right.

Embalming benefits

Embalming can’t always guarantee that the person will look exactly as they were when they were alive, but people are often taken aback at how ‘well’ their loved one looks.

Although death can make someone seem changed no matter how expert the embalming skills are, for many people, it’s a comfort that brings them closure.

Post-mortem surgery, for instance, is a highly expert reconstructive embalming skill, carried out following traumatic deaths such as road accidents.

In cases when it would otherwise be too distressing to view – or perhaps even recognise – a loved one due to their injuries, top embalmers work to reconstruct the features of the person who has died. Although it’s not always possible to completely disguise a disfigurement, it provides families with the comfort of being able to say goodbye.

Embalming also gives people an opportunity to allow for more time with their loved one before the funeral. They might want to bring them to lie at home, or visit them in a chapel of rest. It can afford family members from further away time to get to where they need to be, to pay their respects.

Can a body be viewed without being embalmed?

Yes, a body can be viewed without embalming. Embalming is simply one of many funeral options to choose when someone dies.

If you do not opt for embalming, the we can prepare your loved one’s body for a viewing before their funeral following many of the same steps – washing the person’s body, setting their features, brushing their hair and dressing them. The person’s body will be kept refrigerated in between viewings.

How long can you keep a body at home?

A body that has not been embalmed will begin to undergo the natural processes that happen after death, sooner.

It is usual for someone to be embalmed before they are brought home for an open coffin viewing or a wake, although this is not always the case.

In circumstances where a person has not been embalmed and is brought home for an open or closed coffin wake, the funeral is generally held within a few days of the death and the room is kept very cool.

Bringing a baby who has died home

The Cuddlecot is an insulated crib that allows bereaved parents to bring babies who are stillborn or died in infancy, home for a few hours, or even days.

Many hospitals are beginning to provide these, to enable families to spend precious time with their babies, without the need for embalming.

How long does it take an embalmed body to decompose?

While they are not on view in an open coffin, embalmed bodies are usually kept in a refrigerated space, or a very cool room. In theory, the time it takes for an embalmed body to fully decompose can be many years, depending on the environment.

Bodies that are donated for medical research are embalmed and are generally kept for at least a couple of years, before the donor’s body is cremated.

In the right conditions embalming fluids can preserve a body indefinitely, but burial, moisture or humid conditions attract bacteria to form and begin the process of decay. If you're considering choosing one, our extensive guide to burials will be a very useful resource.

Whether a body is embalmed, extreme-embalmed or not embalmed, it needs to be kept cool in between viewings and until the burial or cremation takes place.

The Ancient Egyptian embalming method differed from today’s methods. It primarily involved the use of natron salts to totally dehydrate the body. This was then wrapped in resin-coated linen strips, to prevent any moisture in the air from causing decomposition. Mummies in museums today are displayed in cases with the humidity strictly controlled.

It can take between eight and twelve years for an unembalmed body buried six feet down, to decompose to a skeleton. This can vary – or take longer– depending on the climate, moisture in the soil and the kind of coffin they were buried in.

An embalmed body may take a little longer to decompose when it is buried, but embalming cannot prevent the process from happening indefinitely. Concrete-lined graves or burial vaults may also slow the process, but nature will take its course.

Can an embalmed body be cremated?

Yes, an embalmed body can be cremated. The embalming process is carried out to bring comfort to families who wish to spend time with their loved one before a funeral, regardless of the type of committal they choose. For more information on this choice as a whole, our extensive guide to cremations is an excellent place to start.

Embalming laws and regulations

Is it a law that you have to be embalmed? In most cases, no. In fact, embalming is forbidden in law, if the person died from a notifiable infectious disease.

One exception is if the person was overseas when they died and their body is being repatriated back to the UK – or their home country – for their funeral. It’s necessary for a body to be embalmed before it is sent overseas. Some people choose instead for their loved one to be cremated in the country where they died and bring their ashes home for the funeral.

The British Institute of Embalmers’ code of conduct states that bereaved families should be fully informed and give consent (ideally in writing) before embalming goes ahead. You should never feel pressured to choose embalming.

Embalming is prohibited for green funerals at natural burial grounds, to prevent embalming fluid leaching into the soil.

Embalming is also prohibited by some religious faiths, including Judaism and Islam, unless required by law.

Ultimately, the embalming process aims to temporarily preserve the deceased's dignity and provide solace to grieving loved ones during the wake and funeral services. At WJ O'Donnell and Son's, we consider it a privilege to carry out this important task and approach it with the utmost professionalism and reverence.

I hope this blog has provided you with a deeper insight into the process of embalming. It’s a complex and fascinating subject that often goes unnoticed. We encourage you to ask questions, engage in discussions, and share this blog with others who might be interested. Your interaction not only helps us grow, but also expands the conversation around this intriguing topic. Remember, knowledge is power, and by sharing it, we can all learn and grow together. Thank you for reading, and don’t forget to like and share!

Disclaimer: The information provided in this blog post is based on general practices and may vary in different regions. It is always recommended to consult a qualified professional for specific advice or guidance pertaining to individual circumstances.

Life as an Irish Undertaker: A Journey Through Time - Part 1 of 6: Embalming

Life as an Irish Undertaker: A Journey Through Time - Part 1 of 6: Embalming

Introduction.

Forty years ago,

I embarked on a journey that would not only become my profession but also a significant part of my life. I became an undertaker in the north of Ireland, a role steeped in tradition and community service. This series of blog posts will take you through my experiences and the evolution of the undertaking profession in Ireland, and the introduction of embalming

The Advent of Embalming in Ireland

When I embarked on my journey as an undertaker nearly four decades ago in 1986, the practice of embalming had only been a part of Irish tradition for about ten years. Prior to its introduction, there was no such service available. The duty of preparing the departed for their final voyage was usually taken up by a member of the local community, often the publican. This individual would “undertake” the task of washing the deceased and laying them out with dignity in a coffin or on a bed, marking the commencement of the wake. This is how the term “undertaker” came into use in Ireland.

The introduction of embalming brought about a significant change in the way we cared for the deceased. In my first 25 years as an undertaker, I would be called to the house where the person had passed away, and the embalming would be carried out there. This practice was in line with the strong Irish tradition that the family’s loved one didn’t leave the house until the funeral, usually two days later.

If the person had passed away in a hospital, the embalming was carried out in the hospital mortuary. After the process, the body would be taken from the hospital mortuary chapel to the family home.

The exact year when embalming started in Ireland is not clearly documented. However, the practice of embalming, in its modern form, began in the early 20th century in the UK. It’s likely that around the same time, it would have been introduced to Ireland as well, given the close geographical and cultural ties between the two countries.

The Intricacies of Embalming

Embalming is a physically invasive process, with special devices implanted and chemicals used to give an appearance of restful repose. The normal waxy-white color of a dead body is replaced with a more life-like tone by the use of dyes in the embalming fluid.

After death, the human body undergoes many changes, one of them being rigor mortis. This is a chemical process where the muscles and limbs stiffen, causing the body to turn rigid. In order to relieve the rigidity and to help the flow of embalming solution into the body, the embalmer gives the body a massage.

Superglue and wires are used to keep the eyelids and mouth closed, in the early days it might’ve been a book or a bandage tied around the head and knotted at the chin!! We’ve seen those unglam images of people sleeping with their mouths open and slack – This is where superglue comes in handy – to fix the expression of the deceased so that they can look like they are naturally sleeping. But when superglue is not enough, jaws might be wired in place and mouths may be stitched closed.

Pacemakers must be removed from the body before cremation as they can explode and cause serious damage to the equipment and the staff working there. Fun fact: Pacemakers can be recycled to help another patient after they are removed from the decedent!!.

Any orifices that might leak are plugged with cotton. As the body’s muscles all relax, so does the sphincter, a muscle that keeps all the…stuff…inside our bladder and rectum. To preserve dignity, maintain hygiene, and prevent unpleasant smells from wafting during the wake, cotton or anal/vaginal (A/V) plugs are used to prevent any leakage from the body.

Eye caps are placed under the eyelids to keep them closed. Nope, your eyes don’t close naturally in death. In fact, for many people, they remain partially open due to muscle relaxation.

Embalming was required for several reasons:

1. Preservation: Embalming is the art and science of preserving human remains by treating them with chemicals to forestall decomposition. This is usually done to make the deceased suitable for viewing as part of the funeral ceremony or keep them preserved for medical purposes in an anatomical laboratory.

2. Sanitization: One of the goals of embalming is sanitization. It helps in preventing the spread of diseases.

3. Presentation and Restoration: Embalming can help restore the person’s appearance, giving an impression of peaceful sleep and wellness. This can be a great comfort for grieving families, especially if they lost a loved one to an illness.

4. Tradition: In Ireland, it was a strong tradition that the family’s loved one didn’t leave the house until the funeral. Embalming allowed the body to be preserved during this period.

5. Legal Requirement: In some cases, all bodies must be preserved prior to burial. If a body had to wait for a period beyond 24 to 48 hours for burial and there was no refrigeration option, embalming is required.

It’s important to note that the practice and requirements for embalming can vary based on cultural, religious, and personal preferences, as well as local regulations. Stay tuned for the next part of this series where we will explore further changes and challenges that came with the evolution of the undertaking profession in Ireland.

The Early Days

Reflecting on the traditions of Ireland 50 years ago, it was common for the deceased to be laid out on their own bed during the wake. This allowed family and friends to gather and pay their respects in a familiar and intimate setting. The coffin, in these instances, wasn’t introduced until the morning of the funeral, just in time for the burial. This practice underscored the personal nature of the farewell and served as a poignant reminder of the diverse ways in which we honour and remember our loved ones. It’s a tradition that speaks volumes about the depth and variety of our cultural expressions of grief and remembrance, this practice still take place!!!

The traditional practice of laying the deceased on their own bed during the wake faced challenges, especially in the absence of embalming. Without embalming, decomposition would naturally occur, posing difficulties for grieving loved ones. Families had to delicately manage the body's decomposition, seeking ways to maintain the remains and uphold a respectful environment throughout the gathering, even if the wake lasted several days.

To combat decomposition, families employed various methods. Some relied on cooling the room or using ice packs to slow down the process. Others utilized herbs and flowers to mask potential odors. Despite the challenges, the practice of placing the deceased on their own bed during the wake persisted due to its deep cultural and emotional significance. It served as a personal and intimate way to honor and remember the departed, emphasizing the importance of family and community support during moments of sorrow.

Over time, embalming became more widespread, alleviating some of the difficulties posed by natural decomposition. Embalming techniques effectively preserved the body, enabling longer wakes and providing greater comfort for mourners.

Nevertheless, it is crucial to acknowledge the value of the historical practice without embalming in terms of cultural expression and the profound grief experienced by communities. Although embalming is now more prevalent, the memory of these earlier traditions and the cultural diversity they represent continue to be respected and cherished.

The introduction of embalming marked a significant shift in the undertaking profession in Ireland. However, despite these changes, the core values of community involvement and respect for the deceased remained at the heart of our work.

In the next part of this series, I will explore further changes and challenges that came with the evolution of the undertaking profession in Ireland. Remember, every end is just a new beginning. Stay tuned for

At W.J. O’Donnell and Son Funeral Directors, our team believes that our work is not complete after the funeral of a loved one and you are burdened with grief. We understand that it’s beneficial to talk during these difficult times, and we are always available to lend an ear. Feel free to call us or visit our funeral homes in Co Antrim or South Derry during our opening hours. We are here for you. For additional bereavement support, please visit our guide at nifunerals.com/bereavement-advice

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“Preservation - Part 2 of 6”…

coming in two weeks. Until then, take care and keep sharing these valuable experiences as I leave you with this lovely though. WJ

Navigating Life as an Irish Undertaker, Embalmer & Funeral Director: The Significance of Embracing Change and the importance of community in Community in Times of Grief

Welcome to Blog 7

Welcome to "Life as an Irish Undertaker," a blog that takes you on a journey into the world of a profession that carries profound honour and responsibility.

Welcome to "Life as an Irish Undertaker," a blog that takes you on a journey into the world of a profession that carries profound honor and responsibility. As an undertaker, I am privileged to be entrusted with a family's most precious possession—their loved ones. In this blog, I will share my experiences and insights into the significance of this role and the deep respect it entails.

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Being an undertaker in Ireland is not just a job; it is a calling that requires a unique set of skills and qualities. It is a profession that demands empathy, compassion, and sensitivity, as we assist families during their most difficult moments. We understand the weight of their trust in us, and we strive to provide the utmost care and respect to the departed and their families.

One of the most significant aspects of being an Irish undertaker is our connection to tradition and culture. Funerals in Ireland are deeply rooted in customs and rituals that have been passed down through generations. As undertakers, we play a crucial role in ensuring that these traditions are upheld and respected. From the moment we receive a call, we step into action, guiding families through the necessary arrangements and providing a supportive presence during their time of grief.

The Weight of Trust:

As an Irish undertaker, we carry the weight of immense trust placed upon us by grieving families. We understand the importance of handling final arrangements with care, dignity, and reverence. Families rely on our expertise to navigate the intricate process of saying goodbye to their loved ones. This trust is a testament to our professionalism and unwavering commitment to honoring the departed.

A Delicate Balance:

In the funeral profession, we must strike a delicate balance between professionalism and compassion. We navigate the complex emotions and challenges that come with helping families bid farewell to their loved ones. Our Irish background enriches this experience, infusing cultural nuances and traditions into our work, adding depth and meaning to the process.

The Power of Empathy:

Throughout our journey as undertakers, we understand the power of empathy. We recognize the significance of each person's life and the profound impact their departure has on those left behind. Every funeral arrangement holds a deeply personal story, and it is our duty to honor and preserve that narrative. We approach each interaction with families with the utmost respect and sensitivity, providing solace and support during their time of grief.

A Tribute to Undertakers:

As you embark on this poignant journey, we hope you gain a newfound appreciation for the unwritten code of conduct that guides the lives of Irish undertakers. Our words resonate with a profound sense of purpose, reminding us of the vital role we play in providing solace and closure during times of immense grief. "Life as an Irish Undertaker" is not just a blog; it is a heartfelt tribute to all undertakers who dedicate their lives to honoring the departed and supporting the bereaved.

In conclusion, "Life as an Irish Undertaker" offers a glimpse into the honor and responsibility that comes with being entrusted with a family's most precious possession—their loved ones. Through personal experiences and reflections, we aim to capture the emotions and challenges faced by undertakers. This blog serves as a reminder of the profound impact we have on the lives of grieving families and the importance of treating each person and their story with the utmost respect and sensitivity. Thank you for joining us on this journey through

Day in My Life as an Irish Undertaker, Embalmer, and Funeral Director Additionally, I will address the frequently asked question, "Do you ever get time for yourself?" and reveal the answer.

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In this blog post, I will provide an insight into my typical daily routine as an Irish undertaker based in South Derry and Co Antrim. From the moment my alarm clock or telephone wakes me up to when I go back to bed, I will take you through the various tasks and responsibilities that define my life as an undertaker.

Additionally, I will address the frequently asked question, "Do you ever get time for yourself?" and reveal the answer. So, let's dive into a day in my life as an Irish undertaker

My day starts with the sound of my alarm clock or the ringing of my telephone, signaling the beginning of another day. I quickly reach out to silence the noise and take a moment to gather my thoughts. As I slowly wake up, I grab my phone to check the news and catch up on any important updates that may impact my day. This is crucial, as staying informed is essential in my line of work.

Once I feel more alert, I make my way to the kitchen to prepare breakfast. A hearty meal is vital to fuel me for the demanding day ahead. I usually opt for a balanced meal consisting of eggs, toast, and a cup of hot tea. As I savor each bite, I mentally prepare myself for the tasks that lie ahead.

After breakfast, I head to the bathroom to take a refreshing shower. The warm water cascading down my body helps to wake me up fully and wash away any lingering sleepiness. As I cleanse myself, I think about the day ahead and mentally plan the tasks I need to accomplish.

Once I'm out of the shower, I dress in my professional attire. As an undertaker, it's important to look presentable and respectful at all times. I usually wear a formal suit, ensuring that I am ready to face any situation that may arise throughout the day.

Now fully dressed and ready to go, I embark on my day as an undertaker. My first task usually involves checking my schedule and reviewing any funeral arrangements that I need to attend to. This includes coordinating with families, funeral homes, and other professionals to ensure that everything runs smoothly.

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 So, let's dive into a day in my life as an Irish undertaker.

As an Irish funeral director, my days are filled with a wide range of tasks that revolve around providing compassion and support to grieving families. It is a profession that requires both empathy and a keen eye for detail, as we strive to ensure that every funeral is a dignified and meaningful tribute to the departed.

A typical day for me starts early in the morning, as I begin by preparing for the day ahead. This involves reviewing the schedule of funerals and meeting with my team to discuss any specific requirements or preferences shared by the families we are serving. Attention to detail is crucial, as we want to honor the wishes of the deceased and their loved ones.

One of the most important aspects of my role is meeting with grieving families. This is a time of immense sensitivity and emotional vulnerability, and it is my responsibility to offer support and guidance during this difficult period. I listen attentively as they share stories and memories of their loved one, ensuring that I understand their wishes and preferences for the funeral arrangements.

Once the funeral details are finalized, I work closely with my team to bring everything together. This includes coordinating with the venue / church, organizing transportation, and liaising with clergy or celebrants who will lead the service’s. We pay special attention to the cultural and religious traditions of the families we serve, ensuring that every aspect of the funeral reflects their beliefs and values.

Embalming is another crucial component of my work. This process involves carefully preserving the body and creating a natural appearance for viewing. It requires a delicate touch and a thorough understanding of anatomy and cosmetic techniques. With respect and skill, we strive to provide families with a final opportunity to say goodbye to their loved ones in a peaceful and dignified manner. With two other embalmers on my staff, I can better manage the workload and ensure that the bereaved families in our care are receiving the highest quality of service. I also prioritize having my wife embalm and dress ladies in our care, as her experienced hands provide an extra layer of comfort and care to those who are grieving.

(I will do full blog on this interesting subject at a later date)

As an Irish funeral director, I believe, my role extends beyond what people associate with the profession. In addition to the traditional responsibilities of organizing and overseeing funerals, there are numerous additional duties that often pass unnoticed.

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I believe another key responsibilities I have as a funeral director is overseeing the creation and installation of headstones. While this task may not immediately come to mind when thinking about funeral directors, it is an essential part of ensuring that the memory of the deceased is appropriately honored and preserved.

Funeral Notices

Another duty that falls under my purview is the management of anniversary notices. These notices serve as a way to remember and commemorate the passing of individuals on the anniversary of their death. By carefully crafting and distributing these notices, I help families and loved ones keep the memory of their departed ones alive.

In addition to the more emotional aspects of the job, there is also a business aspect that requires attention. As a funeral director, I am responsible for managing the financial and administrative aspects of the funeral home. This includes overseeing budgets, accounting, and ensuring compliance with relevant regulations.

Attending Events

Attending fundraising events is another duty that often falls under my role as a funeral director. These events serve as an opportunity to give back to the community and support causes that align with the values of the funeral home. By participating in these events, I can contribute positively to the community while also raising awareness about my services.

Aftercare is an important aspect of my job, ensuring that the families I work with are supported even after the funeral has concluded. This includes providing grief counseling, connecting families with support groups, and offering assistance with administrative tasks such as filing paperwork and handling legal matters.

Maintaining a fleet of roadworthy vehicles is another crucial responsibility. I ensure that the funeral vehicles are regularly inspected and maintained to guarantee their safety and reliability. This includes routine servicing, repairs, and keeping up with any necessary licensing or regulatory requirements.

In total, I oversee seven funeral vehicles, each meticulously maintained to provide a dignified and respectful transportation service. Additionally, I am responsible for managing two funeral homes, ensuring that they are well-maintained and provide a comfortable and supportive environment for grieving families.

During the actual funeral, my team and I work tirelessly to ensure that everything runs smoothly. We assist with the transportation of the deceased, set up the venue, and provide support to the family and friends attending the service. It is our aim to create an atmosphere of comfort and reverence, where loved ones can gather to honor and remember the life that has been lost.

At WJ O’Donnell & Sons Funeral Directors Our responsibilities extend beyond the funeral service itself. Funeral aftercare is an essential aspect of our role, as I offer ongoing support to grieving families. This includes providing resources for grief counseling, assisting with legal matters, and offering guidance throughout the mourning process. Ensuring that families have access to the necessary support systems is a significant part of my commitment to compassionate care.

As the day draws to a close, I find myself contemplating the unique role and immense responsibility that accompanies being an Irish funeral director. This profession necessitates an unwavering commitment to compassion, professionalism, and a meticulous attention to detail. Each day presents fresh challenges and opportunities to have a profound impact on the lives of grieving families. 

Amidst the honor and responsibility of being a funeral director, there is the constant reminder that the phone could ring at any hour. Death does not adhere to regular business hours, and as an undertaker , embalmer and funeral director, we must always be prepared to answer the call, no matter the time or circumstance. It is a testament to the dedication and commitment required in this profession.

"Do you ever get time for yourself?" I'll now reveal the answer.

Undertaking is a profession that demands unwavering commitment and dedication. As an Irish undertaker, my days are often filled with providing comfort and support to grieving families. However, amidst the solemnity and somber atmosphere, it is essential to find moments of respite and rejuvenation. In this blog post, I will address the frequently asked question, "Do you ever get time for yourself?" and reveal how I manage to find a balance in my life. So, let's dive into a day in my life as an Irish undertaker.

After attending Sunday mass, I begin my quest for personal time by taking myself to my boat in Portglenone Marina. The tranquil waters and scenic beauty provide a much-needed escape from the demands of my profession. The gentle rocking of the boat and the soothing sounds of nature create a serene environment to recharge my mind and body.

As I make my way up the River Bann, sandwiched between County Antrim and Derry, a sense of tranquility engulfs me. The river's meandering path leads me to Lough Beg, a hidden gem nestled amidst picturesque landscapes. Docking my boat, I find solace in the stillness of the surroundings.

To truly savor this time for myself, I make myself a steaming cup of coffee. The rich aroma awakens my senses, and as I take a sip, I feel a renewed energy coursing through me. Accompanying my coffee, I indulge in a traditional filled soda, a delightful treat that is both comforting and satisfying.

With my coffee and filled soda in hand, I settle down to read the papers. Staying informed about current events and immersing myself in stories beyond the realm of my profession broadens my perspective. This simple act of reading allows me to detach from the demands of work and engage with the world at large.

Beyond the practicalities, what truly sets us apart is our genuine care and concern for the families we serve. We understand that grief is a complex and personal experience, and we strive to create a safe and compassionate environment where individuals can freely express their emotions and find solace.

Through our interactions with families, we witness the power of human connection and the strength that can be found in sharing memories and stories. We facilitate the process of celebrating a life well-lived, customizing every service to reflect the unique personality, values, and beliefs of the deceased.

As funeral directors, we are honored to provide a space for healing and remembrance, offering support not only during the funeral itself but also in the days, weeks, and months that follow. We recognize that grief doesn't simply end with the conclusion of a service, but is an ongoing journey that requires understanding and support.

I am reminded of the saying, "A funeral is not a day in a lifetime, but a lifetime in a day." This sentiment encapsulates the essence of our work – distilling the essence of a person's existence into a meaningful and impactful farewell. It is a humbling experience, and one that constantly reaffirms my commitment to helping others during their most vulnerable moments.

So as I come to the end of another blog, I want to express my gratitude for the opportunity to serve as a Irish undertaker, embalmer & funeral director and to walk alongside families during their time of need. It is an honor that I will never take for granted, and one that drives me to continually provide compassionate care and support for those who entrust their loved ones to our care.

Thank you for joining me on this journey as we explored a day in my life as an Irish undertaker, embalmer, and funeral director. Stay tuned for future blog posts where we will continue to delve into the intricacies of this profession and the impact it has on our communities.

I’ll be back with Blog 6 on Thursday 10th August 2023 at 9.30am

Supporting Families Dealing with Loss: Your Donation Makes a Difference

In times of loss and grief, families often find themselves facing emotional and financial challenges. Coping with the death of a loved one can be particularly difficult for young families, who may be overwhelmed by the sudden loss and the responsibilities that follow. Your generous donation can make a significant impact on these families, providing them with the support they need during this challenging time.

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The grieving process can be incredibly challenging, and these families often face additional difficulties as they try to navigate their new reality.

By donating, you can provide much-needed assistance to these families during their darkest moments. Your generosity will help ensure that they have access to the resources and support they need to heal and rebuild their lives. This could include counseling services, grief support groups, financial assistance for funeral expenses, and educational programs specifically tailored for children who have lost a parent or sibling.

Children, in particular, require special attention and care when dealing with the loss of a loved one. The impact of their grief can be profound, affecting their emotional well-being and future development. By donating, you are directly contributing to programs that aim to provide these children with the necessary tools and support to cope with their loss in a healthy and constructive manner.

Your donation will not only provide immediate relief, but it will also have a lasting impact on these families. It will help create a sense of stability and hope, allowing them to move forward and rebuild their lives. Additionally, your contribution will send a powerful message of solidarity and compassion to these families, reminding them that they are not alone in their grief.

We understand that everyone's financial situation is different, but even a small donation can make a significant difference. Every dollar counts and will be used to provide vital support to families in need. Your generosity will help bring comfort, healing, and hope to those who are experiencing the unimaginable pain of losing a loved one.

In 2022 WJ O'Donnell & Sons Funeral Directors took care of over £91,000 (Ninety One Thousand Pounds) in charitable donations.

In difficult times, charities bring together people who care about a cause to make a difference. Whatever you care about, there will be a charity working on it. However, it is only possible through your thoughtfulness and kindness.

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Included in this amount raised is our contribution to Local Charities, Parish Communities, GAA, Sport & Youth Organisations etc. Thank you for considering a donation to assist families coping with the loss of a loved one, especially those with young children. Your kindness and compassion will make a meaningful impact and help create a brighter future for these families. Together, we can make a difference in their lives during their time of greatest need.

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2022 Donations £91000